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Just in case... Parental guidelines in case you need a babysitter Whether you work full time outside the home or are simply going out for the evening, you want the best possible care for your children while you are away from them. Before you hire anyone to watch over your children, however, make sure that he or she is a mature, experienced, and capable individual who truly cares about the welfare of children. Check all references, and make sure to observe the babysitter with your children. Above all, ask your children about whether they like and trust the babysitter and what activities took place during your time away. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children has prepared the following guidelines for parents in finding and training a babysitter and preparing your home for temporary child care. Also included here are important safety tips for you and your children. Finding a Babysitter The best sources of child care information are the recommendations of family, friends, and neighbors. You may also advertise for a babysitter in the newspaper or through your local high school, church, or civic organization. If you are new to the area, check the yellow pages of the telephone book (under "Sitting Services") for a list of child care services. Certain sitting services advertise that their sitters are "bonded." This means that the babysitting service has purchased an insurance bond that will cover certain damages or loss of your property. The bond most likely will not protect your children in any way, however. Determine whether the sitting service has made a criminal history check on or has otherwise screened its employees. In some states, you may be able to obtain a listing of child care services through the County Office for Children or even the police department. Look in your telephone book under "County Government" or call your local police department. Hiring the Babysitter Once you have made a list of possible babysitters, check their references carefully. Contact the sitter's past employers, teachers, counselors, relatives, friends, or neighbors and ask them about the sitter's qualifications for child care. Most important, interview several prospective sitters personally and observe their interaction with your children. Look for mature and responsible people who listen and respond well to your children and appear relaxed and happy with them. Last, outline the babysitter's duties and responsibilities and discuss an imagined emergency situation and how he or she might react. When you decide on a babysitter who meets your high standards, discuss the hours and fees for service. Also write down his or her name, home address, and telephone number and, if an adult, the driver's license number. When the Babysitter Arrives Ask the babysitter to arrive at least 15 minutes before you depart. Make sure that you let the sitter know exactly where you will be and how you can be reached. Write down the address and telephone number of where you will be. Also make a list of emergency telephone numbers: a friend or relative, the children's doctor, the police department, the fire department, an ambulance service, and the poison control center. Carefully go over any family rules and daily routines, paying special attention to eating or sleeping arrangements. Take the sitter on a tour of the house, showing him or her any first-aid equipment and all doors and possible exits. It is a good idea to discuss the family rules regarding television, snacks, and bedtime with both the babysitter and the children present. It is the parents' responsibility to let the children know what rules are to be obeyed when the parents are out of the house. The babysitter should be given the following specific instructions:
Your Return Home When you return home, ask the babysitter if the children are safe and if anything unusual happened - telephone calls, visits, and so on. Make sure that the babysitter is escorted home, and wait until he or she is safely inside before you leave. Most important, when the babysitter has left, talk to your children about what happened while you were gone. Ask them what games they played and about any other activities. Ask your children if anything happened that made them uncomfortable or afraid. Safety Tips for Your Children Your children should be reminded of the following safety instructions, which apply to babysitters as well as others:
Detecting Sexual Exploitation Sexual exploitation should not be confused with physical contacts that are true expressions of affection. A warm and healthy relationship can exist if adults respect the child and place reasonable limits on their physical interaction. The reality of sexual exploitation is that often the children are very confused, uncomfortable, and unwilling to talk about the experience to parents, teachers, or anyone else. But they will talk if you have already established an atmosphere of trust and support in your home, where your children will feel free to talk without fear of accusation, blame, or guilt. Parents should be alert to these indicators of sexual abuse:
There is always a chance that a child may disclose past acts of exploitation or general feelings of fear. If this happens, we want you to be prepared to help the child. Follow the guidelines below if a child indicates that he or she may have been the victim of sexual abuse or exploitation:
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